My fabulous bridesmaid Kaitlin, helping with the garter!
Over the weekend I was checking out a bridal forum and offered my support to a bride who was expressing her frustration over her maid of honor. While I had no intention of doing anything other than letting the poor girl know that she wasn’t being out of line, I inadvertently suggested that a maid of honor’s job is to become a slave for outrageous demands. It was pointed out to me by ANOTHER poster on this bride’s “rant” (perhaps rightfully so), that the ONLY responsibility of a bridesmaid is to show up to the wedding. I decided that it wasn’t appropriate to use this thread to ponder having bridesmaids at all if their only purpose is to show up to the wedding (I had 175 other guests to do that part).
So, instead I decided to dedicate the next few posts to Bridesmaids. These are the lovely women who have supported us, and who wish us the greatest happiness. They go to bridal showers with us, they helped us pick our dress, and they volunteer their Saturdays to help make placecards. Whether they go above and beyond to make our shower/bachelorette party/wedding absolutely perfect, or whether they simply show up at the wedding to sign the witness line, I think it is part of the BRIDE’s responsibility to not put them in a situation that causes awkardness or hurt feelings, and to make sure that each girl (or guy if the case may be) knows that she is grateful for their friendship and their help with her big day….and if bridezilla does accidently make an appearence, at least they know that somewhere in there is the loving friend they once knew!
So stay tuned! I’m working on finding out of the box ideas for bridesmaid dresses, great ABQ bachelorette party ideas, and great bridesmaid gifts for the lovely ladies in your wedding party, so let me know if you’ve found something awesome that you’d like to share!
I think I might have stumbled across that same post, and I completely agree with you! I have been a bridesmaid and maid of honor for 2 different weddings, and probably spent slightly more time/money on the wedding I was the maid of honor for. But that was because I organized the bachelorette party, bridal shower and helped make invitations. Neither were bridezillas, thankfully, but if they were at any point, I would have been there to take the brunt and help with a resolution. who in their right mind would choose someone to be in their wedding to just show up on the big day!??
I wanted to put in my input for bachelorette parties. For a cheaper party, when I was a maid of honor, we had a fondue dinner at a friends house. Everyone brought food: chicken, veggies, cheese, chocolate, and fruit. It was a blast! we played a ton of games and interacting around the fondue table was also fun! The most recent bachelorette party, (I was a bridesmaid), was a 2 day event. 1st day was spa at La Bella spa on Coors, we had a blast, but I wouldn’t recommend their services. My very expensive pedicure didn’t even last through that same night! After our spa afternoon, we rented a party bus and did a pub crawl downtown. Very fun! But compared to the first one, this was way more expensive!
http://fit-tease.com/ This fit tease studio is what I want to do for either my bachelorette party or my friend that is getting married this summer. They offer anything from pole dancing – lap dance classes, to dance lessons and lingerie parties. I haven’t been there, but the owner is so awesome to work with and has wonderful ideas to accommodate any type of bachelorette party!
Awesome! Thanks for the info. I hadn’t even thought of Fit Tease, but that would be a great bachelorette party! And the fondue party is a classy way to have fun without spending too much money! Do you mind if I use your name in my post?
Thanks!
Of course! =0)